Remember Sméagol from The Lord of the Rings trilogy?
He had that special ring that gave him great power, but in return for that power he invited Gollum into his life, an evil presence reeking havoc upon Sméagol’s soul. *Spoiler alert* His addiction to the ring ended up destroying him.
It’s easy to look at this poor, sad creature and write him off a pure fantasy, but the truth of the matter is we all have our rings, things that made us feel empowered or important, helped us survive, but in the end will end up destroying us.
Be mindful of these things. Each person has a different one. Often you can find it when it is taken away, so be mindful and aware. We are called to live an abundant life in Christ. Beware the roadblocks and thrive!
A friend of mine asked what a “giving actor” was. Here was my response, may it serve you well:
To me, being a giving actors starts with the other and works backwards. Read the script. What is the other person saying? This will make your lines come more naturally and be more easily memorizable. Get the memorized words out as word-perfect as possible without dwelling on them. The goal is to give your acting partner the cues they need to react appropriately to what you’re saying. Word perfection is both a huge confidence boost and gives both of you more room to play. Study your partner. How are they crafting their character? Even if you are just reading for them, study study study, let this inform how you are crafting your character, so that there are not two contrasting visions going down. Feel free to dialogue about it. The end goal is good chemistry and everybody is different. So, do what you can to complement and move on. Especially if you are reading for multiple people, this can be both challenging and a lot of fun, since a group of people often have a group of interpretations of the same scene. Be present in the read and when they are taking your partner’s coverage during the actual filming. Sometimes this will give you your best performance because the stress is off you. Study how that feels and channel that when the camera is back on you. Also, give the same love you’re showing to your actors to the director. If he or she throws you a curve ball, run with it, so that it becomes more of a game of “Simon Says” rather than “Guess Who’s Right?” We’re there to serve the production and make it damn good, and often times that involves a lot of dialogue and flexibility to make the scene work and visions vibe. Finally, work to create a comfortable atmosphere for your partner. We do a lot of hard scenes in our line of work. Make sure they are okay. Joke around. Note: some people stay in character in between takes. This is fine. You want to present the best performance you can, as well. So, in this case, find the balance. Hope that helps. All these things really help, and trust me I continue to work on them as well. That said, rock it, have fun, and, yeah, totally give me your answers as well! All my best.
Over the past few years, I’ve toyed with the idea that I may, in fact, be a feminist. Slowly but surely, I’ve found myself settling into the role. Of course, I’m not your traditional feminist. I mean: I’m male; I’m Christian; and I’m flawed. I essentially embody the very systems purported to be keeping women down, and, honestly, it’s not my place to argue.
Throw your stones. Have at it. I probably deserve it. But you know what: there is another DESERVING party in the mix… you all. Women, in the house, can I get a woot-woot?! Women deserve more representation. Women deserve more support. Women deserve more love.
And we ALL need more Jesus, the author of grace and truth. So, here I am: stupid Christian boy with my big ol’ feminist sign. You wanna know what a feminist looks like: look no further than right here, whether you like it or not.
Women’s Rights people: Jesus loves you. Men’s Rights people: Jesus loves you. Stupid Aaron: Jesus loves you. Now let’s get back to loving each other like Jesus does.