Progressive Theology

People rag on Paul

because he did not speak loudly enough

about freeing the slaves

or giving voice to women

It is important to note that

for that time

the steps that he did take were huge,

calling for the inclusion of Gentiles,

for a master to acknowledge his escaped slave

as a brother,

and boldly stating that there is

neither Jew nor Gentile,

nor slave nor free,

nor man nor woman

in Christ;

but we would be foolish to stop there,

just in the same way that our Founding Fathers

espoused liberty while withholding rights

from many.

No, it would millennia before

the Paul saw the freeing of slaves,

the protections of the immigrant,

and the giving of authority to women.

Just as Jesus did not come to abolish the law

but rather fulfill it

we strive not to debunk Paul’s asserts

but rather to see them come to true fruition

it is progressive theology.

Just as God is not quick to act,

but rather takes His time in seeing His will be done,

so too does society take its time to get where it needs to go.

We must continue to be both active and patient in that regard,

knowing that growth, whether personal or society,

takes time,

but eventually that Kairos time does come.

 

Friendzone?

Guys, let’s be honest: the friendzone is a lie, an imaginary penalty box of self-loathing, and handy gimmick to get us to buy relationship advice.

It’s natural to develop romantic feeling towards those you are close to. Be honest about that. Honor those feelings. When those feelings pop up and sustain themselves, find a appropriate time and place to relate them. If the feelings are met and reciprocated, then great! Have fun. If the feelings are not reciprocated, you have a choice. If they just want to be friends and you’re okay with that, be friends! If you really struggle with it, maybe take a break, step away. You may want to invest in friendship later on, once the hormones die down.

Now, you may have those feelings but choose to invest in the friendship anyway. If you do this begrudgingly, this is not friendship. It will eat at you inside. This is masochism, not love, and relationships are built on love. It’s in this space that the “friendzone” thrives, because it’s easier to commiserate than to own your stuff and take appropriate action.

So, respect your feelings and those of your friend. Be honest and check in. And in all things, excel in love, in whatever form that love may take.

The Death of Beauty

“hey beautiful” he says

or

“hey sexy”

or something like that.

It’s a no-win situation:

say “thanks”

and they consider it a come-on

say nothing

and they consider it an insult

It’s a rock and a hard place,

“it’s a trap!” as Ackbar would say.

And that is the day when beauty dies,

when so complimentary a word

becomes an instrument of coercion.

Brother Earth, Sister Sky

We are men of the dirt,
derived from the earth
and one day returning thereto.
We are blood and sweat and tears
we are dreamers and we are
wanderers
We are looking a way to defy gravity
to rise up above ourselves
now and forevermore
You are women of the sky,
ethereal, majestic
you see is us in the dirt
and take pity on us
See our pain and nurse our wounds
You are fragile, and so are we
though in different ways
Together, we protect our frail
existence and wrap it with warm
tenderness
We make a home for ourselves,
together on this misbegotten loam
and we find contentment in our days
Complementing each other,
completing each other
As we were designed to do
ever since the First Day,
when man was taken
from the dust.

Nacho Woman

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Q: What do you call cheese that isn’t yours?

A: Nacho cheese!

Pardon the cheesy joke, but it serves a point: You see an attractive young woman, you say something nice, she responds well to it. Awesome! That doesn’t mean you can walk around saying, “I got her.”

We say “like” to be like, we smile to be welcoming, and we are nice because we like to be treated nicely. None of these fall under the “I’m romantically interested” category.

Women are far less mysterious than they’re claimed to be. Sure, they have their moments, but I feel a lot of the time they’re assigned that label because guys are dumb. I know. I am one!

So, guys, let me assure you: if a woman is interested in you, she’ll let you know. You don’t have to send her a billion messages. You don’t have to show up at her work. True, she probably won’t print it on a billboard. She may indicate it with a gesture of the hand or a tilt of the head, but it’s there nevertheless. That’s why you’ve got to be in the moment. That means you’ve got to be over yourself.

I’ll be the first to say that even we, married guys, miss these cues all the time. If we get outta our own way and stop dogmatically pursuing our own needs, the answers we’re looking for will be right there.

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